Oh, the heartache

Sister, I have been there on more than one occasion and thoroughly understand what you are going through. It can be difficult to let go of something that someone did to us and forgive them. However, to move past the situation, you must forgive — so let’s tap into what forgiveness is. 


Steve Harvey said it best: “Forgiveness is not about the other person, but about you.” So to be fully in the present moment to forgive, you have to be in the heart space and mindset that it’s not them but you, and this is where the good healing and release from the heart chakra will happen. I personally feel forgiveness is about freeing one soul from another. When we hold onto pain that somebody has inflicted on us, this is an energetic connection that we are allowing somebody to have over us. This spiritual connection needs to be broken or you will forever remain in the space of hurt and resentment and stuck in the victim mindset.  I had one therapist share his opinion on forgiveness; he stated, “forgiveness for me is more about coming to a place of understanding than anything else.” I may disagree with what you did to me, but I understand your WHY, your motive. 


Interesting fun fact: When we hold onto emotional baggage, it gets stored in our body. Yes, that’s correct. Our hip’s sacral chakra holds onto our deep emotional trauma, I mean deep. So, what are you struggling with physically? High blood pressure, gut and intestinal issues, tight muscles, constipation? Seriously think about what your body is trying to tell you. 

Moving forward

Working with an energy coach or therapist will help speed up the process, but you must be ready. If you are ready, here’s my #1 tip to move past some intense hurt. Trust me, I’ve been there.  If you can come to a place of understanding that the individual who caused the pain is simply operating from an extension of their own world of self-worth and identity, i.e., jealousy, insecurity, etc. A perfect example of this is in the movie A Star Is Born. There was a scene when Lady Gaga was in the bathtub and the career of her character, Ally, had exploded. Bradley Cooper’s character, Jack, was experiencing so much internal turmoil himself and struggling with his own self-identity. He saw the growth in Lady Gaga’s character as a threat, a misfortune from his slippery slope of a career.

Jack loved Ally’s uniqueness, but the connection was more about feeding a dying ego, AKA a little bit of a narcissist. My heart broke for his character, but that moment where he slandered her and called her talentless was extremely hurtful — but it came from his own internal pain and had nothing to do with her. 

Letting go in a season of rebirth

We are entering our season of rebirth, the days are longer, and the winter season is almost over. We are in the full moon in Leo, a perfect time to release whatever is no longer serving you. Take this season as an opportunity to really do the work and begin the process of forgiving those who have caused so much hurt and pain. This doesn’t mean picking up the phone and saying, “I forgive you.” This is about your spirit cutting that cord. Visualize it in a meditation, releasing that cord, that person, with love to all and harm to none. Sister, this is your year, if you are willing to claim it and do the work! 


Felicity Nicole

Felicity Nicole
I am Felicity Nicole creator and owner of She Is You, a brand for midlife women that are seeking to rediscover who they are. I am an author, speaker, mentor and mother to a 14yr old son, and 3 fur babies. In my downtime I can be found, outside in my garden with my dogs soaking up the sunshine.
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