Single for the Holidays: How to Overcome Loneliness
Here are a few tips on overcoming loneliness this holiday season
The 2021 holiday season is approaching fast, perhaps a little too fast! Pretty soon we will all be getting invitations to holiday parties, having to do all of our shopping, and hearing Christmas music everywhere we turn.
The holiday season means different things to different people. Some say it is the most wonderful time of the year, but some may feel that it is not so wonderful. Many people struggle with feelings of loneliness during this time of year.
Being surrounded by family or spending time with your partner is so heavily emphasized during the holiday season, but what about single people?
If being single has you feeling a little blue this year, know that your feelings are valid. Here are some tips and tricks that may help to make you feel a little less lonely.
1. Take a break from social media
Not everybody has a very active social media presence. However, if you are someone who does or you find yourself spending a lot of time scrolling through it, pay attention to how it makes you feel.
When you exit the app or website, do the posts that you’ve seen give you FOMO or make you feel bad about yourself? If so, you may benefit from giving social media a break.
It’s no secret that everybody tends to post only their best and happiest moments on their social media, and for many that include showing off their romantic relationship. Things are not always as they seem, though. Remember that some social media posts just may be a happy façade.
Scrolling endlessly through your social media feed can make it easy to compare yourself to others. Regardless of how you perceive social media posts, there is nothing wrong with wanting to take some time off of using it.
2. Spend quality time with your friends
Understandably, a lot of people are busy during the holiday season, but making time for friends is important. If you’re feeling the holiday blues, call up a friend that you haven’t seen in a while and make plans to meet for coffee or lunch.
This is also an excellent time of year to get all of your girlfriends together for some bonding time. Many friend groups like to do cookie exchanges, a Secret Santa, or a white elephant.
If this is something that interests you, organize a small party where everybody brings a snack and a beverage to pass. Spend the night reminiscing on what you have all accomplished in the past year and laugh the night away!
Some consider their friends to be their family, and that is a beautiful thing. They can really fill the void that the holiday season brings for some people. Hold on tight to friends like that!
3. Consider adopting a pet from your local shelter
This one is a big commitment and should not be taken lightly, but if you are experiencing single loneliness, adopting a dog or cat will give you an instant companion.
Clearly, the circumstances have to be right. Pets require time, money, dedication, and love. If you have been interested in potentially adopting a dog or cat, visit your local animal shelter to find more information and look at some adoptable animals.
There are millions of animals in shelters across the United States waiting for a family to call their own. Maybe you could be their holiday miracle!
4. Try picking up a new hobby
For many, the holiday season means a bit of time off of work. This could be the perfect time to pick up an old hobby that you really enjoyed or try a new one out.
Hobbies are an excellent way to keep your mind occupied, and they act as an outlet. They may even serve as a way to meet new people.
5. Do something nice for yourself
It’s important to treat yourself every once in a while and the holiday season is no exception. Unfortunately, this cheery time of year can also bring some stress, so don’t forget to set aside some “me time.”
This could also fall into the self-care realm. It could be something simple such as reading your favorite book or taking a hot bubble bath. Or, if you’d like to get a little more extravagant, you could book yourself a massage or buy yourself something that you’ve really been wanting.
Sometimes we get caught up in doing things for other people, but it is vital to protect our own energy as well. So spend an evening relaxing with a glass of wine and a movie, buy yourself the shoes, or both. You deserve it!
No matter who you spend, or don’t spend, this upcoming holiday season with, just remember that you are worthy and important. Happy holidays!