Age Positivity: Body positivity after 40
Body positivity after 40
What if we stopped focusing on the number and started to focus on how we feel in our bodies? What if body positivity in your forties became more about living a beautiful life with ourselves unapologetically, without shame and guilt of not being enough or worthy. Becoming mindful of that ageing gracefully is a form of art. And self awareness, nurturing our body with nutrition and movement and love can be the fountain of youth we are all longing for. The self-image after forty can be hindered if we start to compare ourselves to perfectly curated magazine photos and the “should and shouldn’t” of how our bodies are to look. What if we created our own definition of body positivity based on our own individual journeys and lessons?
As a health coach working with women from ages 40 and above, body positivity has a different meaning to each individual woman. Her size, her past, whether she has had a child, married or single. We each have a different relationship with our bodies. It can become difficult when we try to fit into a box that is perfectly curated for us. It’s when we get caught up in the belief of magazine covers that tell us body positivity has to have a “the perfect look” or we are unworthy and not enough if we look anything different.
A woman’s body tells her story. Her stretch marks, her scars, her laugh lines and even the cellulite on her body. Learning to accept our imperfections is learning to accept ourselves with guilt and shame. And that our bodies are deserving of love, attention and kindness. How we speak to our loved ones is how we can learn to speak to ourselves. This can be a loving and unconditional relationship with our bodies. In my previous articles we have highlighted nutrition and ageing. The benefits of having key ingredients and wholesome foods for ageing gracefully. Nutritional and mental health, where the gut brain axis plays a role in our mindset. In this article, Body Positivity over Forty, we are going to discuss how to stay body positive as we age.
3 Tips For Body Positivity
- It’s easy to get caught up in our personal dialogue as we age. It can become a rabbit hole of negative thoughts and actions toward ourselves. And comparing our bodies to other women can leave us criticizing our uniqueness. The best way to shift your mindset with daily practice is to think of yourself as your dear friend. Would you say the same negative words to her or him? Would you say that they are “ imperfect” due to their age? No? Okay great! We shower them with complaints and speak supportive words to them. By becoming aware of this dialogue, we can start shifting our mindset and limiting beliefs of ourselves and approach our body with love and kindness as well.
- Our social media following plays a huge role in body positivity as we age. Comparing ourselves to others can trigger our body image. We have the power to control our social media feed and follow a diverse group of body types. By doing so we get to control and normalize different people, ages and body types. If it helps, remember that there are people out there comparing themselves to you and feeling bad about it. But it’s best to stop thinking that way entirely.
- Body positivity after our forties isn’t about “dressing our age” or “not caring about our bodies anymore”, it can be more about dressing for ourselves! To express our personality and have fun unapologetically. Our bodies change as we change. Whether you have had a baby, lost weight or gained weight, you are still allowed to shine. Learning to nature your body with wholefoods, daily activity and self-care routines can make a difference in how we feel about ourselves in our body.
The key is to learn and understand that our bodies are beautiful in any shape, age or strength. We won’t wake up everyday loving our bodies but we can work on honouring our bodies fully versus fighting with it daily.