5 Ways to teach our children to be self starters
At what age do we set our children up for success?
Oh boy, would I of killed for that self starter “morning mom” child. Over the years I realized how I have created this dependent child instead of an independent one. Even though my son, has so many amazing qualities and strives in many areas of independence, I was pulling some of those skills away by “doing to much” for him. At what age do we set our children up for success?
Some children are naturally independent, while others may need assistance to remain on track. But with the right help, almost all kids can develop the self-reliance that is important to manage their work. Learning to be a self-starter is a very useful skill to carry into adulthood. One frequent complaint is that some employees stand around waiting to be told what to do. They seem incapable to look around them and find something that requires to be done, much fewer ideas and projects that need to be done to benefit the company. You can give the children a leg up by teaching them to continue as self-starters. At the same time, you will be making your job easy by making their educational expedition purposeful to them, as well. That is really good news.
Routine is vital to promote independence. Make daily routines like a place for homework, a place for store supplies, and a regular homework time before a meal, so children will know what to expect every day. Involve the kids in the planning, but consider the children’s temperaments also and monitor their routines accordingly like whether they work in a busy or noiseless location and when they do homework.
Let them suggest topics
If you follow a well-organized textbook approach, you may allow them to select the topics for research papers, suggest science experiments, choose their sport or musical instrument, or help them to decide on the next trip destination. The more they will feel that they have a choice, the more they will be ready to embrace that choice.
Softly tell the children that your goal is to raise self-starters
Model excitement and curiosity and. Show your children that how you go about learning different things. As with many things, intellectual curiosity is like getting caught than taught.
Convert Big Goals into Small Steps
Sometimes, failure happens many times. It is when kids need more encouragement to be motivated to achieve something and not give up. The best way to help the kids is to break down the goal and recognize their improvement.
Set up a certain place for kids for their homework
kids need to have a certain place where homework should be done other than the dining room table or kitchen counter. Kids must have a place of their own such as a desk. We should set them up to respect their homework. This makes a physical place that children can associate with doing work, and later with planning to do work.
Ask your kids if they require a reminder
Asking the child if they need a reminder when the homework time approaches. Ask if they would like to set an alarm or tell them when it is time. By knowing when it’s time for homework, they will move towards tackling their workload.
Help your kids get started and then walk away
At a young age, some children may feel welcomed by the idea of getting begun with their work. Parents can help by ensuring their kids understand the directions. But after kids have done some problems in an assignment, parents need to walk away and let their kids complete the work independently on their own. Completing their assignments independently is a step towards independently handling the flow of homework assignments. Make a rule for them that homework is not considered complete unless it’s in the child’s backpack. A better habit to form early on is to ensure homework goes right into kids’ backpacks as soon as it will be done. It avoids any assignments that will get turned in late.
Make sure that your kids have some downtime
After school and activities, children want some downtime before homework. Most kids want a minimum of a half-hour to unwind. This will help your kids recharge and increases their ability to concentrate. Parents should look for overscheduling activities and ensure these don’t replace homework.
Kids can manage homework independently
Each kid is different. But after a year of taking help from parents on these steps towards good time management, most kids are willing to take on the full responsibility of homework management independently. But how parents will know if their kids are ready. By asking various questions like How you can organize this, how long you will spend on this, depending on their answers, you can tell if they can be independent.
Ask questions about time management and organization also help kids to solve their problems independently. And once you see a steady pattern of kids having an elegant plan for completing their homework, you can step back and let your kids tackle their own time. Parents generally make a habit of doing the homework with their kids, and when it is time for children to do their homework, they have not had the experience of doing it alone. This gets back to the idea of ensuring kids understand what they should accomplish and then walking away to let them do work on their own.
Ways parents sabotage their kids’ self-reliance
Parents do hover
Sitting with a kid for a long time during homework also dents self-reliance. Children then induce dependence on parents being always present to remain them on task, but kids should learn to be comfortable with working alone for a lot of time, which will lengthen as kids mature.
Don’t focus heavily on the work quality
It is natural for parents to want their children to do their work in the best way. But leave the work quality to the teacher. There are many fights about the work quality between parents and students. And then kids will avoid homework. The goal of homework when kids are younger is to practice skills and learn responsibility.
Do not make your own consequences for incomplete homework
Let it be between the student and the teacher. If a student does not finish the homework then he/she must deal with his teacher. Don’t criticize or chastise him. Let their teacher decide what the result will be and he should begin to realize that it’s easy to get homework completed the night before.
Do not do homework with your children
Don’t make it your habit of doing homework with the child too much. Parents generally make a habit of doing the homework with their kids, and when it is time for children to do their homework, they have not had the experience of doing it alone. This gets back to the idea of ensuring kids understand what they should accomplish and then walking away to let them do work on their own. A child who is 7 or 8year old, he/she should get his homework independently.